Embrace solitude and conquer your fear of being alone with our informative article. Let us guide you towards finding peace and strength within yourself.
Some people are afraid to be alone or don’t like to be single. That concept bothers them, and they tend to compare themselves with others. When their relationship breaks, they find happiness that way.
I know people who don’t want to be alone with themselves because they are afraid to discover something about themselves. They are scared to discover some things about themselves, and they prefer to stay in their comfort zone. So,not to deal with any issues they might not like or if there is an emotional state, they would prefer it doesn’t surface. To avoid going through the pain.
But what they are not realizing is that it will come back later, when they least expect it. One way or the other, the emotion kept inside will surface; unfortunately, it could come as a dis-ease.
Now, for those who need to be constantly in a relationship, it usually is a form of insecurity, some sense of control, and a lack of self-confidence. Some feel that they need someone in their life to exist. They don’t believe they are enough.
Here is how it can manifest
A couple who don’t necessarily love each other.
In this category, it is often one person who controls the other. I will say personally, I met more women in this situation who are looking for a relationship. They will be in control of this relationship. They will decide about everything, who the boyfriend/husband can see, where they will spend their time, etc. You can feel the control taking over, and it is suffocating. In general, the man in this relationship doesn’t have a strong personality or doesn’t show his true self. He wants to please his woman; he doesn’t want her to be angry, so he will do everything she asks.
They could end up being together for a lifetime and be unhappy and stuck in that kind of relationship. Or it will break at one point because one of them won’t be able to take it anymore. Either the man will want to express himself suddenly, and make decisions on his own, or the woman will be tired of always making the decision and would long for another kind of relationship. She will forget that she is the one who started that way, but she will blame her man that he is too weak or not caring.
A couple who love each other and with time grew apart and went on a different path
This couple fell in love at first sight. They find they have a lot in common, and they accept the other person the way he/she is (they think). Now, when the routine starts in their lives, they start to see some traits or habits the other person has. Then, they realize they didn’t really see it before. They thought they were okay with it, but actually, when it is time to really face it, they don’t really want to accept it. The person asks the other to change or not to do it anymore because he/she doesn’t like it. Taken by surprise, the other person can’t agree because she/he is always been like that, even before they met. It’s part of who they are. This, in turn, changes the relationship. Both of them feel uncomfortable in their relationship.
Sometimes, the decision of separation comes to the table, and both of them decide to go their separate ways.
Sometimes, the person to whom it has been asked to change lies and pretends that she/he changed.
She/he doesn’t want to find him/herself alone after building so much in the relationship. Sometimes, they don’t want to restart all over again. They stay in the relationship based on pretending and lying.
Don’t be afraid to be alone, because it will give you the chance to know yourself, what you want, and what you don’t want in your life. Being alone will allow you to love yourself, respect yourself, and choose the right person for yourself. You don’t need to be in control to be happy and fulfilled.
Don’t be scared to start all over; actually, you don’t start all over, you keep moving forward. You learned something in that relationship, you learned who you are, and this person helped you achieve something, and you also learned something from them.
There is no mistake in this world. Everything that happens in our lives, positive or negative, is a lesson for us. A lesson that helps us evolve and be better people. Don’t forget that you helped that partner/ person as well. We meet people in our lives for a reason, even though some of them do feel painful. It just means that we need to face something hidden in us and heal from it. Sometimes, it is related to your Karma or past life with that person, and there is something that you need to innerstand.
Removing fear from our lives is a freedom worth experiencing.
It takes time and patience. Just start to work on it, day by day, and you will see what you can achieve.
Couples who are separating or getting a divorce tend to think they need to start all over. But there is no “start all over”.We can’t undo what we’ve experienced. We can only move forward with our experiences. That is the one aspect that people fear and sometimes postpone the inevitable.
People tend to be too hard on themselves. What you experienced, you did it with what you knew at the time. No one can predict the future, and we live exactly what we need in this life.
We are at the right place at the right time.
Quote: “Alone doesn’t mean lonely. It just means alone. It just means that for now, you’re on your own, and that’s not a terrible thing.” ― Hemal Jhaveri
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.— Robin Williams
If you want to be happy, learn to be alone without being lonely. Learn that being alone does not mean being unhappy. The world is full of plenty of interesting and enjoyable things to do and people who can enrich your life.— Michael Josephson