We have all been there at one point in our lives. Waiting for other approval. Thinking about it, the life we live is ours. Everything we do is only for us, as we are the ones who will live with the consequences of the actions we’ll take.
In the meantime, what other people see or think of us, we put on a high scale.
Why do you look for the approval of others?
1. Acceptance: Approval from others can provide a sense of belonging and validation, making them feel accepted and valued. You like to be part of a social club. You don’t want to be left out, so you act and do things the way that will please others.
2. Self-esteem: Seeking approval can boost one’s self-esteem. When others validate or approve of our actions, choices, or accomplishments, it reinforces our belief in ourselves and our abilities.
3. Social norms and expectations: Society categorizes people into different groups in the community, and everyone belongs to one group. So, if you don’t look to be approved by one of the groups, you might be alone.
It often establishes certain norms and expectations that dictate what is considered “good” or “right.” Seeking approval helps individuals conform to these expectations and avoid judgment or criticism.
4. Validation of choices: Seeking approval can serve as a way to ensure that one is making the right decisions. Others’ opinions and perspectives can provide guidance or reassurance when we are uncertain about our own choices.
5. Emotional support: Approval from others can be a source of emotional support. When facing challenges or difficult situations, the encouragement and validation of others can provide comfort and motivation.
It is important to note that seeking approval from others becomes problematic when it becomes the sole determinant of one’s self-worth, leading to a constant need for validation and dependence on others’ opinions. Striking a balance between seeking external validation and cultivating self-acceptance and self-confidence is crucial for overall well-being.
What happens when you stop seeking approval from others?
One day, your heart starts opposing your decision. Because we all evolve in life. You start realizing that, after all, this doesn’t fit with what you feel inside you. Something is not right, and doubt starts to be part of your thoughts. You start to see that you have your ideas and opinions, and they are not so bad, and they resonate with you.
You can do your research; you can think for yourself, and you don’t need the approbation of others.
It is a beautiful moment for you. You finally start to live. You start creating and discovering what you like and dislike. It’s like seeing for the first time. You are discovering your potential and who you are. You become more aligned with yourself, with your heart, and with your purpose in life.
Here are some positive outcomes:
1. Authenticity: You become more authentic and truer to yourself because you are not constantly trying to fit into molds or please others. You can embrace who you are and express yourself genuinely.
2. Confidence: Your self-confidence grows as you rely less on others’ opinions for validation. You start trusting your judgment and decisions, which allows you to take risks and pursue your passions with greater conviction.
3. Independence: By relying less on the approval of others, you become more independent. This independence strengthens your sense of self and empowers you to live life on your terms.
4. Emotional Freedom: Seeking constant approval from others can lead to anxiety and stress. When you stop depending on external validation, you experience a sense of emotional freedom. You can focus on your happiness and well-being without feeling the need to conform or gain approval from others.
5. Growth and Self-Discovery: Letting go of the need for approval opens the doors for personal growth and self-discovery. You can explore new interests, take on challenges, and embrace opportunities without being limited by external expectations. This opens up possibilities for self-improvement and discovering your true potential.
You will probably do some cleaning around you because not everyone will agree with the choice you will make.
You can still seek approval from others to a certain extent. You just need to find a balance between what you want and what others propose to you.
Quotes: “Once we give up searching for approval, we often find it easier to earn respect.” Gloria Steinem
“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” Lao Tzu
“Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love – you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.” Eckhart Toller