Discover stories of betrayal and resilience in this article.
It’s so hard on us when we feel betrayed. It’s an emotion that we can’t swallow easily.
In general, the people who betray us are the people who are close to us. It can be in a relationship, friendship, or at work. Betrayal can bring so many emotions in different directions, such as anger, self-esteem, and much more.
The intensity of the betrayal depends on the importance of the relationship you have with the person. For example, if you get betrayed by someone who sold you something not as advertised, you will be mad and get over it, as we can expect from a salesperson.
When you are being betrayed in a relationship, like your life partner, your best friend, or your family, the betrayal is deeper emotionally. You put all your trust in that person like you take for granted that they will never hurt you because of their place in your life.
What happens when you feel betrayed?
· You seek revenge, you want to return the pain to the betrayer.
· You feel you have lost someone.
· You are grieving.
· You are depressed.
You start building a wall around you because you don’t want to let anyone in again into your circle. You withdraw from social events, so you start to feel lonely. By doing this, you might be missing out on good opportunities.
By closing yourself off because someone betrayed you, you don’t give yourself a chance to receive abundantly.
Betrayal can’t be avoided. People will do things that you won’t expect or will shock you. As humans, we take some relationships for granted, and we don’t pay attention. When you find out about being betrayed, you are surprised; you never saw it coming. Yes, some betrayals can surprise you, but you need to be aware and conscious of the people you trust. We all have been betrayed. Withdrawing from yourself is not the solution.
How can you deal with and get over being betrayed?
· Speak about it: by talking about it to someone you trust, you will express what you feel. It will help you recognize the emotion around that betrayal. It can be anger, frustration, deception, …
· Don’t seek revenge. It will put you at the same level as the person who betrayed you. You won’t gain anything by it. Let the universe take care of it.
· Take time and self-care. Be patient with yourself. Don’t put time into getting over it; it’s giving you pressure.
· Examine the betrayal and the relationship you have with that person. Some people keep the relationship after taking time and evaluate it.
· I will suggest speaking to the person who betrayed you. Because you will want to have some answers. If you can talk to the person to inner-stand, to free yourself, do it and move on.
· Then work on the process of forgiveness and forgive yourself. You need this to be able to move on. Otherwise, you will be stuck.
Being betrayed brings so many emotions. Take the time to deal with it and primarily heal.
Also, read here article written by Crystal Maypole
Quotes: “Be careful to whom you trust. Betrayal always comes from the persons you trusted.” – Anurag Prakash Ray
”Life has taught me that you can’t control someone’s loyalty. No matter how good you are to them, doesn’t mean that they will treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you, doesn’t mean that they’ll value you the same. Sometimes the people you love the most, turn out to be the people you can trust the least.” – Trent Shalton
“I’m not crying because of you; you’re not worth it. I’m crying because my delusion of who you were was shattered by the truth of who you are.” – Steve Maraboli